Friday, August 14, 2015

To Empathize...and to care...

I feel we are in such a fast paced life that it looks like there really isn't anytime to sit back and relax, to enjoy the moment, to have a listening ear, TO EMPATHIZE...and TO CARE..

As a parent I always feel its my responsibility to teach kulli all of the above. I do not want to be a parent that just talks about these things but also follows it so that kulli can actually see and learn. I do not know how far I have been successful. But I am a very proud mother when I see the little one empathizing and caring for others. To me its extremely important to emapthize with others cos I feel that's how everything else will fall in place. That's how one can imbibe good values, one can understand the difference between good and bad, once can make the right choices. You get the drift right.

Now the reason for this post is, I definitely wanted to put few incidents here that shows how kulli empathizes and cares for others, so that kulli can read them years from now and feel good about it.

Kulli goes to a park nearby everyday and has quite a few friends there. Once day one of her friends (lets call her S), came to the park and was quite sad with her eyes still wet from all the crying at home.
Kulli and her friends observed this and they checked on her (These kids are all 5 and 6 year olds). S happened to tell them what had happened. After hearing the story kulli runs to S's grandmom and this was she told her "Paati, please dont scold my friend, I dont like it when she is sad and crying. If you scold her I will be very upset."

Second instance, there is a one year old kid that comes with his grandfather to the park. This kid was playing on the swing and the grandfather was pushing it gently. The kid asked for water and the grandfather left the kid on the swing to get water. Kulli runs to this grandfather and tells him "uncle please don't leave the kid alone on the swing, if he falls down he will get hurt".

Hearing this I was gleaming with pride. Even now while I am writing this, it brings a smile on my face. I want to remind myself that kulli by nature is a very caring child and I should make sure that I encourage and appreciate this more often.

Thursday, January 22, 2015

I want to be me

"I want to be me" such a simple sentence and yet has such a strong message, isnt it?

The other day my SIL took kulli out to get icecream. She happened to ask Kulli whether she wants to be Kulli Shonapa (kulli's real name with my husband's name as surname) or Kulli Amma(kulli's real name with my name as surname). Looks like kulli thought for a while and blurted "I want to be me".
When my SIL told me this, I was like woaahhhh wait did she say that.

I am not sure kulli understands what she has said. But to me it meant a lot. All I want to say to her is this,  I get the message kulli, I know you want to be you and I also wish to let you be.

P.S. FYI, when I asked her the same thing she said she wants to be Kulli Amma (yayyy....even if its just to please me..:))